Friedrich Nietzsche claimed that his greatness stemmed from following the formula of amor fati or a love of fate.
“My formula for greatness in a human being is amor fati: that one wants nothing to be different, not forward, not backward, not in all eternity. Not merely bear what is necessary, still less conceal it, all idealism is mendacity in the face of what is necessary, but love it.”
In a way, amor fati is accepting things the way they happen without expectations or complaint. It is to be fully present regardless of the circumstances in life, whether positive or negative.
Though we’ve been taught earlier in our lives to focus only on the bright side of life and avoid the dark side, we have the choice to open our eyes to another facet of the truth and exercise our latent powers.
We can learn to live a life of greatness by absorbing the creed of amor fati and apply it in our lives, the way Nietzsche did.
How To Succeed In Achieving Amor Fati In 6 Steps:
1. Approach a life that’s free of shame.
As early as infancy, we’re taught that there are some aspects of ourselves that are shameful.
For example, in some cultures, babies aren’t allowed to get naked in public because it’s shameful. Though there’s nothing wrong with our bodies, we’re taught that there is.
Shame robs you of your power. Shaming has been used to cripple people emotionally and spiritually.
2. Integrate your shadows.
Our shadows are the holding tank of our unconscious. If we’re unaware of what’s going on inside our subconscious minds, our shadows will surprise us by coming into the surface through distorted expression.
Repressing these shadows more will only enhance its power. Own your shadows and take responsibility for your life.
Facing your dark side is not an easy thing to do. You have to find where your shadow lies then understand it.
Don’t judge it. Acknowledge the guilt or shame that’s associated with your shadows. Ask yourself if it’s serving you or not. Then release the shame or guilt.
3. Accept that everything happens for a reason.
While the wound caused by shaming is so deep within you, accept the truth that everything happens for a reason. Don’t ask why people love to put others to shame, instead, ask what it has for you and how you can rise from it.
Shame connects you to the memories of pain, going through the experiences all over again. But you have the power to break away from this pattern.
Face it head on by embracing that it happens.
4. Embrace all your sensations.
As humans, we’re gifted with different sensations of varying degrees. These sensations may include traumatic painful experiences that need to be accepted and felt to the core.
It’s this kind of sensation that we mostly don’t want to feel because they’re not comfortable.
Ironically, it’s only through feeling the depth of these emotions that we can attain amor fati because no matter how tragic these experiences may seem, they still carry the mysterious “goodness” of life.
This is not to say that you should resign yourself to the violence that society brings, but that you will be better able to cope with how life happens when they happen.
5. Abide in the magical state of amor fati.
When you’re able to love your fate in total ecstasy despite the painful dimensions, you’re able to liberate yourself in this condition.
This is what Carl Jung termed as “individuation”, where you become totally aware of your true inner self.
By being fully aware, no pain or adversity can ever cripple you and you start to exercise your power and greatness. This enables you to approach life with total openness and attracts more goodness to come to you.
6. Affirm your divinity.
Embracing amor fati is actually embracing your divinity. It’s developing an attitude where you exercise the energetic signature of your being.
When you identify yourself with this divine truth, you generate synchronous circumstances that gives you astonishing powers.