“There” is no better than “Here”. When your “there” has become a “here”, you’ll simply obtain another “there” that will again look better than “here”. — Dr. Chérie Carter-Scott
Have you ever found yourself fixated on a future utopia?
A dream job, a picture perfect relationship, that exotic vacation you keep daydreaming about…
These “theres” can feel so much more appealing than the “here” of your current reality.
We spend countless hours fantasizing about what “could be” while neglecting the beauty and potential of the present moment.
But here’s the truth of life: The only moment that exists is the present moment. And if you are able to see it, “There” is no better than “Here”.
The real solution to the problem of “Here” not being as good as “There” is letting go of the things that prevent you from seeing that there is only “Here”. And that “Here” is perfect.
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Rule 6: “There” is no better than “Here”
Think of it like a lush garden.
You spend years envisioning a specific, “perfect” arrangement of flowers and trees.
Finally, you achieve it, and for a while, it’s breathtaking.
But then, what happens?
You start noticing a weed here, a wilting bloom there.
The “perfect” garden needs constant care and attention. The very same applies to the “there” we chase.
Once attained, it becomes our new “here,” and the cycle continues.
The truth is, happiness isn’t a destination, it’s a journey.
4 Ways to Embrace The “Here”
The present moment is all there is.
Of course, you might argue that there are terrible situations, illness, poverty, war… situations where it’s obvious that ANYWHERE else is better than that “Here”.
So how can we claim that “there” is no better than “here”?
Here lies the nuance of this rule…
What most people don’t realize is that “there” is just an illusion.
Yes, health is better than illness, riches are better than poverty, peace is better than war… but that’s ALL attained in the “here”
It’s the same present moment you are trying to escape from that holds the keys to all the solutions you are trying to find.
But in order to find them you need to embrace the present moment.
Running away from the “here” just because it sucks to some imaginary “there” will not fix the “here”.
Only by embracing the “here” fully, can you transform it into whatever you want it to become.
And then, even the sadness you might feel will be beautiful, the happiness will be more meaningful, and the colors of life will be brighter.
Life is not only about happiness, it’s about awareness, learning, growing, and transforming.
This doesn’t mean forget about being happy, not at all. It means that you need to examine the ingredients that enable you to create happiness in your soul, in your heart, your essence.
Instead, focus on depth, meaning, purpose, and happiness, true happiness will come.
Life is about becoming fully who you are and embracing your purpose. You can do this by fully living in the present.
Other gardens might look greener, but the present is the only garden you have.
It’s your garden and you can make it an Eden, a paradise.
Here’s how to cultivate contentment in the present moment…
1. Practice gratitude.
Shift your focus from what’s lacking to what you already have.
Take time each day to appreciate the good things in your life, big or small.
A steaming cup of coffee, the laughter of a loved one, the simple act of breathing, these are all gifts worth cherishing.
Keeping a gratitude journal can be a powerful tool for cultivating an attitude of appreciation.
Once you start seeing everything beautiful that you have been gifted by this life you will be eternally thankful.
And there are always more things to be thankful for, so keep looking.
2. Find joy in the everyday.
The most profound moments of happiness often hide in the ordinary.
A sunrise, a walk in nature, a conversation with a friend, these seemingly mundane experiences hold immense potential for joy.
And they are all given to you for free.
Slow down, savor the simple pleasures of life.
3. Focus on the journey, not just the destination.
Life is a continuous process of growth and evolution.
Instead of fixating on achieving a specific goal, find joy in the process of getting there.
You remember the old saying, “Focus on the journey, not the destination”?
Well, it’s all about the journey!
Yes, goals are important, but they fade in comparison to the adventure of trying to achieve them.
The friendships you build along the way, the struggles, the lessons, the laughter, the small moments of honesty and the mere humanness…
All those things give color to life.
Those things are the real gold we came here to experience.
Those things enrich your soul.
Embrace the challenges, celebrate the small wins, and appreciate the lessons learned along the way.
4. Let go of the illusion of control.
Life is inherently unpredictable.
Clinging to the idea of achieving a perfect future only leads to frustration and disappointment.
Instead, let life surprise you.
Take that leap of faith and trust that what life has in store for you is much better than anything you could have ever planned.
I know it’s hard, especially if you’ve been hit by life any time you lowered your guard.
But life is not against you.
If it was, you would not be here.
Learn to trust life again.
You might get hit again, hurt, I don’t know… but I am certain of one thing.
That one time you lower your guard and you are not hit, instead, you are shown beauty unlike anything you could have imagined…
That moment is worth every hit.
Cultivate acceptance and learn to navigate the unexpected twists and turns with grace and resilience.
Life might be a ruthless teacher, but it’s not against you, it is you.
The grass isn’t greener on the other side, it’s green wherever you water it!
Remember, my friends, the “there” you chase will never be perfect.
It’s the “here”, the present moment, that holds the potential for true happiness and fulfillment.
Water the garden you’re in, nurture the relationships you have, and find joy in the journey of life.
You might be surprised at how beautiful your “here” truly is.
Now, go forth and bloom where you’re planted!
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